By Monica Tucker
As I was searching the internet, I came across several social media ‘military spouse’ support forums and other sites that are basically a reflection of the negative side to living this military life. As a military spouse business owner, I was somewhat appalled by the lack of professionalism displayed, and it all has to do with communicating negativity and falsehoods. What I witnessed was the ‘crabs in a bucket’ mentality.
I’m keeping it real.
Even if you are in competition with someone, never give reason for a potential client or customer to doubt your professional ability to handle any situation that may arise when it comes to your business. A savvy and confident entrepreneur will not engage in or be a part of idle and unproductive conversations regarding their counterparts/competition.
At the end of the day, we are still spouses. We have an unspoken brotherhood and sisterhood that transcends our business relations. It is a true statement and fact that even though we are brothers and sisters, if we have the same business, there will be competition, but it should be ‘healthy’ in nature. Obviously, you can’t give up your trade secrets but there’s no reason to act in an unsavory manner.
3 Point Checklist to Make Sure You Aren’t an Online Instigator of Negativity
- Healthy Talk… If you come across a topic of conversation that berates or belittles others or makes accusations (without proof) about another person, be the bigger person and don’t engage them. If you do comment, offer words of inspirations, encouragement and empowerment that could possibly change how they are viewing the situation. Chances are, there may be a misunderstanding between the parties and your positive commentary could be the catalyst to create a healthy online networking environment.
- Don’t feed the sharks… Don’t be the one who starts the fight and then runs to leave everyone confused and wondering what happened. People are waiting for the ‘next big thing’ to talk negatively about. Rumors have led to unthinkable acts of violence. You don’t want to be the one who started something that couldn’t be stopped. Rumors can destroy a person’s business, but more importantly, it can destroy the very essence of people. Yes. Most can develop a thick skin to certain situations but some people cannot this should be kept in mind.
- Keep a healthy mindset…What does it benefit you by harming someone else? Money? Fame? None of that matters if your heart is full of envy, jealousy, hatred and strife. An envious and evil heart can lead to physical health issues. A healthy mind is fed by what the owner chooses to deposit into it and that requires some hard work. It can be difficult to close your eyes and cover your ears to negativity, especially when it surrounds you on a daily basis; but most of us can do so by believing that we will become what we think about and speak about. If you feed yourself with positive vibes, your character can’t help but shine through. A healthy mind is one that consists of always finding ways to make good out of bad and happy out of sad. It’s a mind thing and until you realize that you have complete and total control over it, you can be of help to no one, not even yourself. There are several resources and people available to help you begin to think positively.
Etiquette starts with attitude; anything else is uncivilized and reflects the nature of a jealous hearted and immature person. Dealing with deployment can be stressful and so can the general aspects of living this military life, but that is no excuse for acting in a manner that could be detrimental to receiving support from those who respect our Soldiers’ position as protectors of our freedom. Think first and then act. If the move you’re about to make (verbally or virtually) is not conducive to producing positivity, take a deep breath and blow it away with the wind. If you’re married, it’s way past time to grow up. Your Soldier doesn’t need that added stress and neither does the world as a whole.